don't let that title freak you out. i'm not getting married, yet. but in addition to learning a lot about photography, which i wrote about in my last post, i've also thought a lot about weddings this weekend. the workshop i'm watching is wedding photography specific, and to be honest with you, i think the wedding business is absolutely stupid.
it's incredible to me how much the wedding business has boomed and how competitive weddings have become. everything has become all about the wedding - big, bold, and stand-out. wedding blogs are everywhere (confession: i follow probably a few too many). most girls 'wedding boards' on pinterest, including me. and wedding photographers are everywhere. i mean, don't get me wrong, i love weddings. i really do. but i don't want mine to be a competition. i want it to be so simple.
i want it to be about us. not about the details, and the number of people attending, and the politics. i have had many friends go through the wedding season in the last year or so, and it's amazing to me how stressful that time is - whether it's other people making things difficult, or just the pressure of getting everything just. right. i have learned a lot just by watching. believe me, my list of do's and don'ts is growing rapidly.
one of my friends said to me the other day that if she could, she'd take back the deposit on the venue and just have a small backyard wedding. the stress isn't worth it.
i can't tell you how many times i've told my stressed and worried engaged friends that their wedding day is about them, not about what others will think about the wedding. and in reality, the wedding day isn't the end all and be all of everything either. it's simply the first day of forever.
on my wedding day, i want to be more excited about marrying my person that stressed about everything falling into place perfectly (and that doesn't mean i want my mom or my MOH or anyone else to take on the stress instead). i want it to be simple and intimate. i want to enjoy the people who are there and know without a doubt that they are thrilled just to be there. i don't want to invite anyone because i feel obligated to. even if that means it's tiny. i don't want to play politics when it comes to my bridal party. i don't want the wedding season to be all about me. i want it to be about us, and what God is doing in and through us, and how our life will be intended to honor God and bless others.
above all, i want to wake up on my wedding day only thinking, i'm going to marry my best friend today. i want to see him and know without a doubt that this is what God had in store for us all along.
i will be thankful. so thankful. because i didn't deserve any of it.
and please, if i'm ever on the verge of bridezilla, march me right over to the computer, open up this page, and make me read it.