July 12, 2011

hello 20s!

birthdays remind you of all the wonderful people in your life, and yesterday, i was overwhelmed with love and well wishes. i was certainly one blessed birthday girl. some people say 20 is a dud birthday - i say, hi, i'm officially in my twenties now (which both freaks me out and excites me at the same time!)! birthday wishes from family overseas, friends from long ago, and new friends i've met recently poured in since the minute july 11th started...

though this is not the first birthday i've spent away from home, this is the first birthday i've spent in my new home, and half of me was a little anxious about it. but there are a handful of people down here i now consider family, and yesterday was another reminder that we're growing up, life is changing, and yet, God is faithful and good, and 'love is all you need.'

one of the most fun things about being down here is spending time with a girl who i get to work with, hang out with, double date with, instagram with, go to church with, live with, and call my truest friend. this past year, even just the last six months, have changed our lives, and in every new adventure and every new step, she has been there to share it with. i am so thankful for her support, her encouragement, the things she challenges me with, and her refreshing real-ness. God must have known we'd be close, because she is also a friend i can celebrate my birthday with, and yesterday we laughed and wished each other a happy birthday and shared stories about our special days. i can't wait for another year of memories and then to celebrate once again in 364 sleeps.

if there is one person who's changed my life in ways i could never imagine, it would be my man. he made yesterday one of the most memorable birthdays, and i am so grateful to him for taking care of me, loving on me, and allowing me into his life. from mountain adventures, to surprise gifts, sunsets, endless amounts of teasing and laughing together, belting out cheesy songs in the car, snapping hundreds of pictures, grabbing the camera from me and taking pictures of me, getting dressed up, and then crashing by 10pm (a sign that we truly are getting old!), he made yesterday a day to remember, and i couldn't be a luckier or more blessed girl.

and to all of you who made my day so special, thank you for your love and wishes.

good-bye teen years, hello adulthood!

July 4, 2011

ladies, i need your help.

a few weeks ago, a friend of mine asked me to take on a little project for him - and i couldn't be more glad that he asked!

over costco pizza and smoothies, we started talking about guy/girl dynamics, and the serious lack of guidance in this area - especially for us young adults, still trying to figure out who we are and what life expects of us. observing relationships, building into (young) women especially, and watching people grow into the people God made them to be are my absolute favorite things; this project speaks to every aspect of that.

this post is mainly aimed toward the ladies, young women of God who are praying for, waiting for, and hoping for, a man of God to one day steal their hearts. women, who whether they are in relationship or not, whether they've known what it is to love. or whether boy love is still a distant unknown are earnestly seeking God's heart and patiently waiting for a man of God. the question is, what man are you waiting for? what does he look like to you? how will you know he, and the relationship you hope to enter into, is from God, and that God is at the center of your unfolding story?

i'm not asking for a 'perfect man' list, though i'm totally a fan of those as well. i'm asking for a hopes and prayers list. i already discussed this with a friend over dinner the other day, and started a list of the things that make men of God stand out above the rest. the project is this:

how can we, as young women of God, encourage young men to step up and pursue us? how do we expect men to treat women - respect? chivalry? care? when you look at a crowd of young people, what kind of value judgments do you gather from observing interactions - is it the funny guy? the quiet guy? the servant? the class clown?

in part, i suppose i'm asking for the things that not only attract you, but characteristics that you could see creating a lifetime of love.

your opinions/responses will be kept anonymous, because once i've compiled this little project, your answers will be shared with young men, just as eager to understand the complicated hearts of women (though really, are we that complicated? ;]). your answer can be just five bullet points, or an entire novel - i'll read either, and i promise to keep your heart hopes and desires safe and secret.

think about it...how can we encourage men to step up? and while we challenge them with that, how can you, as a young woman, seek what it is to be a Godly woman for your one day man?

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